Things To Think About If You Want To Win People Over

Even your boyfriend’s grandmother.

We’ve been together for almost three years and I only met his grandma the other day. I know, right? But in Daniel’s defence she lives in Israel and only finally made it out the other day.

Back to the point. Sometimes it’s just not enough to bring your charming self and hope people like you. Or it is, but you can’t risk it not being so.

The best thing to do in this situation is invest a little. It’s amazing how far a little time and a few bucks will get you. So no, buying a Class A share of Berkshire Hathaway ($200,000+ in case you were wondering) for your new acquaintance won’t be necessary. Here’s how to do it:

 

care is key

Though you’re only about to meet this person, get in the mindset that they’re your favourite grandma/friend/business partner/new boss. Coming from a mental place of care is important.

Consider the setting

No matter your intentions, your gesture can be taken the wrong way if you don’t properly gauge your setting. For example, you might want to hold off until you actually get the job before bringing your boss-to-be homemade cupcakes.

Less IS MORE

Going back to the Berkshire Hathaway thing, just don’t. It’s the little things that make the biggest, most appropriate statements anyway. And please – PLEASE – keep your audience in mind. As in, before bringing a meatloaf to dinner with your new parents-in-law-to-be, make sure they’re not vegetarian.

decide on the message

How do you want to be remembered? If you love to bake, go for it. Be proud of who you are and you’ll establish an air of sincerity in the relationship.

 

examples:

For someone you want to impress:

Show off what you can do! Bake, if it’s for new coworkers. Bring a portfolio to the interview, if it’s a job you really want. And definitely whip up your famous lasagna for dinner with your SO’s parents.

For someone you want to flatter:

Flowers and hostess gifts work wonderfully in this scenario. Think ‘token of respect’ and you can’t go wrong.

IF YOU WANT TO EXPRESS GRATITUDE:

Any of the above-mentioned will do, actually. REALLY consider your audience, don’t forget the Thank You card, and you’re golden [Ponyboy].

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Cheesecake cupcakes are my favourite thing to bake, no contest. If you click the picture you’ll get the link to the recipe I use. Sometimes I add lemon and orange zest into the batter, too.

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Brought a bouquet of colourful flowers for Daniel’s grandma. We’re like besties now.

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Fun fact: I landed a second interview with a Fortune 500 company with one of these career portfolios.

 

What are your favourite first-impression gestures? Any ideas I can mooch from ‘ya? 😉

Love,

Dana

 

2 thoughts on “Things To Think About If You Want To Win People Over

  1. Shannelle says:

    dude, you’re a great writer! I absolutely adore your blog, and I can tell you really put the care into and you’re real to your audience! Keep it up!

    In response to this particular blog, I would say prepare your funny stories to share, ask them lots of personal questions (because everyone loves to talk about themselves), and sincerely learn to laugh with them. I don’t particularly create such gestures like you have listed, in fear that it seems a bit try-hard, but it really depends on who it is. In your case where it’s a family member specially the mamas, all your suggestions are guaranteed charm! From my experience, I try to connect most by being funny and silly!

    All the best,
    Shannelle

    • dana.iskoldski@yahoo.com says:

      I had the biggest smile on my face reading this :’) I support your response 100%, someone going by your tips would come across as an incredibly genuine and positive person. I’ve got a hunch that you go by these ALL the time 😉

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