Ted Talk Tuesday: How To Stop Screwing Yourself Over

Hi friends! Exams are coming, so now is a great time to consider how it is that we’re going to stop screwing ourselves over. This applies to studying, nutrition, that personal project you want to start… the list goes on in terms of things we want to accomplish but somehow don’t. Over the weekend I watched a great TED talk (TEDx, if we’re being precise) that I couldn’t get out of my head, so it’s only natural that I share it with you. It lit a fire under my butt, and made me rethink my occasional (ok, semi-regular) laziness.

Mel Robbins is a hard-hitting, honest speaker in that she’s not afraid to point out exactly why we don’t get things done. I won’t give too much away, so you’ll just have to trust me on this. The talk is worth the watch, and even though it’s 20 minutes, Mel makes it so easy to enjoy. Really motivational.

Speaking of Mel (who will follow you back on Twitter/Instagram, I kid you not, despite having 14k+ followers), I reached out to her for you guys to get a comment. Here’s what she had to say to her university self given what she knows now:

  1. University is a time for exploration – in addition to your major be very smart about what extra classes you take – I’d highly recommend anything you can take on; small business, entrepreneurship, coding, video editing and basic graphic design….these kinds of courses will give you some basic exposure to skills you’ll want to have if you decide to launch your own thing.
  2. “RELATIONSHIPS RELATIONSHIPS RELATIONSHIPS – I am almost 50 (scary I know) and when I was at Dartmouth College over 20 years ago, there was no Facebook – so staying tight with people isn’t as easy as it is for you all – DO NOT UNDERESTIMATE THE POWER OF YOUR RELATIONSHIPS – THEY ARE EVERYTHING. IT IS THE PEOPLE YOU MEET THAT WILL MAKE A DIFFERENCE IN YOUR LIFE. HOW YOU TREAT THEM AND MAKE THEM FEEL IS KEY. Seriously – be great with everyone you meet. Be interested. Cheer them on. Help however you can. Don’t be a douche. It’s simple really. If you cheer for people, they will cheer for you. Look at what Taylor Swift did this summer, every single concert, she’s pulling people on stage…Kobe Bryant, Serena Williams, Walk The Moon – over and over and over – and guess what happened – by cheering for them/sharing the limelight- they all cheered for her – she’s the #1 person followed on twitter….and instagram b/c of it. As long as your peers remember you as a “good guy” or “she was awesome” 20 years later, when they are working somewhere you need to network into – you will need them. If you were cool to them back in the day, they’ll remember you and help you out in the present. That’s it – it’s simple so be intentional about it.
  3. “One more thing – all it takes is a tweet – that’s it – make it a practice to call out one person a day (even folks you don’t know) – who are kicking ass, – give them a pat on the back publicly, recognize them, cheer them on (share your platform the way Taylor Swift did) and you’ll have created a new fan….” -Mel Robbins

What did you think of the talk? What are you going to do after it? Can you identify with what Mel is saying?

Ok guys, it’s time for me to sign off so I’m just going to leave you with this: Mel motivated me to get off my butt and do more of what benefits me. She was kind enough to leave you guys her two cents, which only goes to show how awesome people out there are, and that you should also try reaching out to strangers you admire and doing some of what her third tip recommends. But really, if you have any questions, you should tweet at her directly 😉

Lots of love,


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